In Islam – the world’s fastest growing religion, and the second largest after Christianity, making love to one’s lover (wife), is considered an act of worship and therefore rewarded by God. Indeed, the Prophet of Islam, Muhammad (peace be upon him), in his attempt to teach his followers, and to regulate the art of love and sex, said, “…and in the sexual act of each of you, there is charity.” His companions said: ” O Messenger of God, when one of us fulfills his sexual desire will he have some reward from that?” (Related by Muslim). This was aimed to protect partners in a romantic relationship.
The Prophet said: ” Do you [not] think that were he to act upon it unlawfully he will be sinning?” Likewise, if he had acted upon it lawfully, he would have reward.” What this means is that sexual acts are rewarded if done lawfully. And are sinful if done unlawfully. And The Bible says: “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:1-2.
The dictionary definition of “fornication” is, “any unlawful sexual intercourse including adultery.” In the Bible, the Greek definition of the word “fornication” is to commit an illicit sexual intercourse. One may ask: “What constitutes unlawful sex?” And by whose laws do we have to live by?” Man-made standards or laws many times do not always go hand in hand with the Word of God.
Indeed, the founding fathers of the United States of America established many laws that were originally based on Christian standards and the laws of the Bible. However, with the passage of time, the United States has drifted far from these standards and at the present the prevailing moral standards are shocking the world. To be sure, immorality is not only found in the U.S. alone, but has become a world-wide phenomenon. This has been the sorry state of the “civilized” man who has misplaced the true meaning of love. Our freewheeling “macho” attitudes towards sex will only push us toward extinction.
There Is Nothing Better For Lovers Other Than Marriage
The Prophet of Islam. Muhammad ((p.b.u.h.)), indicated – albeit in few words – the relationship between love and sex by saying: ” We have not seen anything better for lovers other than marriage.” (Related by Ibn Majah). This means that, no love is actually true love if falls short of marriage. In other words, at the top of the “Love Mountain”, one finds nothing other than marriage. But how high is the “Love Mountain” or how far should one climb the “Love Mountain” before discovering marriage at the top? It all depends on the intensity of that relationship.
In his attempt to further teach his followers – the Muslims – the art of love and sex, the Prophet also indicated that: “…none of you should spring upon his lover (wife), in such a manner as the donkey does…”. Rather, it’s required of him to first of all engage her in amorous dalliance and laughter, so that the feelings of love and affection remains between them.” Thus, in a romantic relationship, that inevitably leads to sexual intercourse, the Prophet advises his followers to pay a particular attention to the other partner’s feelings and yearnings through the medium of love.
A Sexual Instinct That Is Satisfied In The Manner Described Above Becomes Encompassing
The Prophet of Islam, is inferring that, his followers are not supposed to be greedy lovers. – who are only interested in themselves – prior to – and after a sexual encounter with their partners. A sexual instinct that is satisfied in the manner described above by the Prophet of Islam becomes encompassing if there exists the continuation of a cordial relationship between husband and wife – that kind of conjugal relationship that has been built upon the purity of purpose, mutual affection and true love. Certainly, a complete union between two bodies and two souls becomes inseparable.
You belong to her, and she belongs to you. In such a union, there is no room for one party to resort to double-dealing or trickery. Sex is not a thing to be ashamed of, or treated lightly, or to be indulged in excess. Therefore, there is an advice for people who aspire to master the art of love and sex in the Holy Book of The Muslims:
Your wives are
As a tilth unto you
So approach your tilth
When or how ye will;
But do some good act
For your souls beforehand;
And fear Allah
And know that ye are
To meet Him (in the Hereafter),
And give these good tidings
To those who believe. (Qur’an, 2:223).
In Sex, Morality, Manner, Time and Place Are All Important
Looking at the instructions from the Muslim Holy Book above, we realize that, the most delicate matters, are hereby referred to in the most discreet and yet helpful terms. How can we master the art of love and sex without paying particular attention to the morality, manner, time and place of our sexual engagements? In this manner, the highest social standards are set by our own refined instincts of mutual consideration.
Sex is a solemn a fact as anything in life. It’s compared to a husbandman’s tilth; it’s a serious affair to him; he sows the seeds in order to reap the harvest. Therefore, he chooses his own time and mode of cultivation. He does not sow out of season. Due to mutual love, a loving husband does not cultivate his tilth in such a manner as to injure or exhaust the soil (his loving wife). He is wise and considerate during any sexual encounter and does not run riot.
Coming from the simile of human beings, every kind of mutual consideration is required. But above all, we must remember that even in those matters, there exists a spiritual aspect. We must never forget our souls, and that we are responsible to God.
Knowledge Of Vice And Virtue Is Not Merely Based On Intellect
In accordance with the teachings of the world’s fastest growing religion – Islam, our knowledge of vice and virtue is not merely based on intellect, desire, intuition or experienced derived through the sense organs; which constantly undergo shifts; modifications and alterations; and do not provide definite, categorical and unchanging standards of morality. In order to help us master the art of love and sex, Islam provides us with a definite source – the Devine Revelation, as embodied in the Muslim Holy Book – The Qur’an, the Sunnah (the way of life of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him).
These sources prescribe a standard or moral conduct that is permanent and universal and holds good in every age and under all circumstances.
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