No matter who we fall in love with, we all face the dilemmas of love. To be sure, most of us question love throughout life. “Does my partner really loves me, won’t they abandon me in the course of time for a much younger one? These days, my partner always returns home late from work…and when I attempt to ask them why, they yell at me! Are they having affairs? People who still believe love is blind are entitled to their ideas. However, this writer begs to differ.
His reasons are that, A lack of intimacy in marriages has often led to partners playing away. When two people fall in love, they tend to be guided by the love that now exists between them. And as time goes on, the love between them grows more intense – until such a time that – they see with each other’s eyes and eat with each other’s hands. Undoubtedly, when a complete union occurs between two loving souls and two loving bodies, there is no any talk of separation. It’s this type of love that is supposed to guide them through life’s journey with the power that it possesses.
With The Power Of Love Comes Magnanimity
In a loving relationship, one is magnanimous to the opposing views of their partner and intensely loyal to them as a soul mate. This is all possible because true love has its own way of taking care of itself. The power of love dictates that, at a time that there exists true love between couples, there is bound to be a mutual feeling of affection and tenderness.
If a wife’s love for her husband were intense, she would definitely do well to play her part in fulfilling her responsibilities toward her husband. These so-called responsibilities are of no practical significance, they are merely powered by love and are aimed at proving to the husband how much she loves him.
For this reason. The Prophet of Islam, Muhammad (peace be upon him), has said: “The best of women are those who make their husbands happy when they look at them; and when their men are absent, they guard their chastity and their husbands’ wealth.” Indeed, the power of love makes her to be virtuous, magnanimous, caring and loving. For this woman, there is no room for frowning or looking at her husband from the extreme ends of her eyeballs. It is all smiles over-flowing with affection and joy. Her love for her husband is complete if an element of obedience is added to those early morning smiles. If the power of love is not strong enough to extract obedience from a spouse, then what else can do that?
The Diplomacy Of Love Is Driven By The Power Of Love
The man is required to reciprocate the love given to him by his wife. There should always be a win-win situation in the diplomacy of love in any romantic relationship. The man’s heart should also be a fortress of love that entertains no one else but his loving wife. He is required to provide his wife with adequate financial support – knowing very well that – money is not love – but it does supports love. The rules of the game in any marital relationship are clear and in harmony with human nature. In consideration of the physiology and psychological make-up of both man and woman, both have equal rights and claims on one another., except for one responsibility – that of leadership.
This is a matter which is natural in any collective human life, and which is consistent with the nature of man and driven by the power of love. The Holy Qur’an says:
“…And they (woman) have rights
Similar to those (of men) over them,
According to what is equitable, but men
Have a degree above them (in responsibility and authority).” (Qur’an, 2:228).
Such degree is maintenance and protection, and refers to that natural difference between the sexes, which entitles the weaker sex to protection. It implies no superiority or advantage before the law. Man’s role of leadership in relation to his family does not mean dictatorship over his wife, rather, it is supposed to be driven by the power of love. Islam tries to maintain the married state as far as possible, especially where the interest of children are involved, at the same time, it is against the restriction of the liberty of men and women in such vitally important matters as love and family matters.
It will check hasty actions as far as possible and leave the door of reconciliation open at many stages. Even after a divorce, a suggestion of reconciliation is made. In order that, the power of love existing between couples is not “trapped in inertia”, there is always the need for married couples to develop the unique gifts of a diplomat that enables them to cut through complex issues affecting their relationship and forging a consensus.
How can married couples really cut through complex issues affecting their relationship if they hesitate to sit on the bargaining table to negotiate between themselves the nitty-gritty of their relationships – and finding answers to questions like – who gets what, when, and how in that relationship?
Love is a word that is being uttered by every human being – sometimes without knowing its significance. Love has its own power that causes the hearts to tremble. The power of love can be overwhelming and often causes the tongue to be incapable of expressing the true nature of the feelings that are deep-rooted in the innermost recesses of the heart. When, and if the power of love incapacitates the tongue, it causes the limbs to speak physically in order to express its intentions.
However, love can still be categorized into two basic degrees of intensity. True love, which is the most intense and springs forth from the innermost core of the heart, and fake love that is of a lower intensity. Indeed, it may only be ostentatious and may not even have a place inside the heart. Indeed, its the worst form of love. True love has the power to bind wounds and bring reconciliation, whereas fake love lacks the same power. Fake love is like a bird that perches temporarily on a tree branch. Once it flies away it sees no reason to return to the same tree branch.
We may be asking ourselves at this juncture. How is my relationship with my partner, and how intense is the love that exists between us?
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