How Do You Nurture A Long-Term Relationship?

To be sure, these days people have grown so busy that personal relationships have become impoverished. Friends are now harder to maintain and families are shrinking – not only because of rising divorce rates across the globe – but also due to the fact that people are now having fewer children. Sometimes, the elderly are not often cared for at home. Despite all these, one is apt to hear aphorisms like: “A friend in need is a friend indeed; tell me your friend and I will tell you his character; there is no better mirror than an old friend; you may find your best friend or your worst enemy in your self, etc.” These aphorisms may make you yawn, but they are sometimes the most effective way to characterize or sum up personal relationships.

Many people have now begun to question what is the best way to nurture long-term relationships. Below are some relevant questions about relationships – especially that between the opposite sexes.

Question:

How do you nurture a long-term relationship?

Answer:

Being in a marital relationship is like being in an amazing institution where the couple truly love each other and are both prepared to work at it to keep it flourishing. I am not claiming to have a lot of thoughts and opinions that are unreasonably positive about long-term relationships, and that, I do not understand the challenges within marriages as they really are – It’s often easy to be starryeyed about a place you’ve never been to! But I will say this: marriage takes mutual commitment. Love, compassion and affection are what both partners need to dole out freely to each other when the going is tough and those feelings of infatuation fade away.

Inevitably, the cooling of intense romantic love often gives way to a period of disillusion, especially for those who regarded romantic love as the only essential component for both a marriage and it’s continuation. In the light of the fact that there is much more equality between both sexes than there was in previous generations, there is the need for couples to work harder together in order to maintain a healthy and long-term relationship. To be sure, women are now in the workplace in huge numbers and in many cases, out earn their husbands. They no longer gain their sense of self-worth and status through their husbands. They no longer feel an obligation to stay in a failed or unfulfilling marriage. All these mean that men have to work even harder to keep their marriages intact – if they don’t want to lose their spouses.

The many ways a man employ in order to maintain a long-term relationship include but not limited to:

  • Being courteous to his wife at all times.
  • Not despising or disgracing her in public.
  • Being faithful to her during her presence and absence from home.
  • Handing over complete authority to her in her marriage life.
  • Sometimes surprising her with gifts and adornments.

Since maintaining a long-term relationship doesn’t only have to be the sole prerogative of men, women also do have their part to play in order to keep the good times rolling on end.

These include, but not limited to the following:

  • Discharging her marital duties with grace and style.
  • Being hospitable to all her husbands’ relations .
  • Being faithful to her husband.
  • Guarding jealously her husband’s property and spends her husband’s wealth out of necessity and mutual consent.
  • Dressing gorgeously for her husband. The man also needs to do the same!


Question:

What does it mean when a man invites you home?

Answer

It means he may be interested in your friendship or building a relationship with you. A man who invites you to his home is actually a more sincere one than someone who wouldn’t like you to ever know where he lives – even if you request to go visit him at his home. His refusal to let you pay him a visit may be an indication of him hiding something from you. It may be that, he has a wife or flirting with multiple women that he wouldn’t want you to accidentally bump into during such visits

But you shouldn’t accept his invitation unless you are allowed to go to his home with at least one of your trusted friends. Never accept a man’s invitation to his home alone. Make sure you go with someone else. If he refuses and insists you come alone, then there should be something sinister.

After all, he can equally tell you “he loves you” even if you are together in a coffee shop or at the stadium watching a baseball game – and not only at his home.



Question:

Should I message a girl I haven’t talked to in months?

Answer:

Why not? Reconciliation is always better. If you were in the wrong, you could call her up to apologize. So to speak, if she were in the wrong, you could still call her to tell her you have forgiven her. You lose nothing by calling her. You are only showing that you still love her and do also care about her

Question:

I am deeply in love with a married woman and wish to marry her. How do I convince my wife to break up with me nicely and quietly?

Answer:

There is a story of a guy who met a married woman and in some few days decided he wanted her as his wife – her marriage to another man notwithstanding. Few days after meeting this woman, he unabashedly came home one day and requested a divorce from his wife in order to marry the other married woman. According to him, they had already decided to spend the rest of their lives together starting with that night – when they would both leave their spouses.

Prior to this time, his wife had been putting up with a bad behavior from him for almost a year. He would sneak out whenever she was pregnant and sick in bed. He would not also help ensure that his wife’s good health was maintained during her pregnancy. While this man was telling his wife about his new love, he said to his wife – when talking about her illness during pregnancy, “I didn’t sign up for that,” and I never really loved you.”

According to this narrator, the man then left soon after that. Later, the man’s wife got a phone call from her husband’s therapist saying he told her he made a mistake and wanted to come back to the marriage. His wife laughed and said, “His new girlfriend didn’t leave her husband, did she?” The therapist answered, “No, she didn’t.” His wife declined to accept him back and continued on with the divorce. According to this story, this man’s second wife (someone else) left him after three years in the same manner for another man. He was paid back in full!

In your case, why would you fall in love with someone else’s wife? What would happen if the other man finds out your secret relationship with his wife? If you never really loved your wife why didn’t you tell her or refuse to marry her? How would you feel if someone else does this to either your mother, your sister or your daughter? If you are really involved in a bad marriage and wants to get out of it that shouldn’t lead you to poaching other people’s wives.

Discuss with your wife honestly what you feel about your marriage life and suggest what should be done to make it work. If you still insist on leaving her, then do that in a much dignified manner. Your current affair with a married woman is reprehensible and I hope your wife finds out about your affair and dump you with the garbage before you do something silly.

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Love And Relationships – Questions And Answers

Although human relationship may be categorized into many types, relationships with the opposite sex have been the most common in all cultures under the sun. This relationship could be a platonic one; it could also be a romantic one – as short as a one night stand. It’s well-known that the romantic one could be the sweetest. As far as romantic relationships are concerned, they are the same in the East and in the West. Differences however, would not fail to exist with respect to their longevity, closeness and intensity.

Black man holding belly of his pregnant wife making heart. Pregnant woman and loving husband hugging tummy at home. Heart of hands by multiethnic couple on pregnant belly.

Below are some questions and answers that could go a long way toward helping the reader get a handle on relationships between the opposite sex.

Question:

I Feel My Ex Girlfriend Still Loves Me. I Can See All The Signs. Is It Possible That She Is Hiding Her Feelings?

Answer:

To be gin with, what was your main reason for the breakup? Was it due to quarrels over money, lack of attention or for cheating? In any case, if you (in your own mind) think she is still in love with you why don’t you go forward and ask her about her feelings toward you? You can’t afford to make assumptions about love – you need to be smart about it. You need to be sure that’s actually the case.

On the other hand, if she’s actually hiding her feelings from you that wouldn’t help her either. She needs to come out of the “love closet” and proclaim her love to you openly and fearlessly. Love is not something to be ashamed of, or to be scared of expressing it to someone you love.

If you believe that “all the signs” of love are there (hidden) in your ex, and yet she is not coming forth, then you have to step forward and reclaim her heart before it’s way too late!

Yes! Women prefer men of substance, men who are bold enough to come forward, men who are daring, and above all men who are bold enough to always say to them : Darling I am sorry. It was all my fault! Love you more and not less.”

It could be that your intention toward her isn’t matrimonial. If your intention is matrimonial why don’t you go reclaim her – making her understand that, this time around you mean to be with her for the rest of your lives – not just a hanky-panky relationship.

Question:

Does Anyone Still Believe In Love Relationship And Marriages?

Answer:

To be sure, I am a strong believer in love, relationship and marriage. Yes in that order of preference. If you love someone of the opposite sex, your longing for them increases, this leads to an automatic relationship, that is often authenticated by marriage. To this writer, every relationship is considered deficient if it does not crown with marriage.

Marriage is what we often find at the top of the proverbial Love Mountain. In the reverse order there can’t be a happy marriage without a loving and kind relationship between the partners involved; and that sort of substantial relationship will be possible if there exists true love between the couples.

There are many reasons for people to engage in relationships and possibly marriages:

  • Marriage for love, protection and security – whatever kind security is applicable here.
  • Marriage for sexual health and purity.
  • Marriage in order to raise a family.
  • Marriage for companionship.
  • There is no human being on earth unless they have an iota of love in their hearts. That love could be imagined or real. And with that love comes a desire, and that desire leads to relationship in which a lot of good things happen for both partners. All in all, these partners together work on creating the good times and keeping these good times rolling for years on end. You can never create the good times if your heart is devoid of true love.

Question:

What Are Those Five Qualities You Would Like Your Future Husband To Possess?

Qualities that one needs to see in his or her future spouse may differ profoundly from one person to another.

In his letter to an advice column, one American man wrote: “…I’m at the end of my tether and not sure what to do. Basically, my question is, what exactly is it that women in my generation are looking for? I’m a 23 year-old law student and political activist who also loves ballroom, dancing and classical music. Everyone tells me I’m a great listener, and I put other people first. After all this, not only have I had a date in years, but also women don’t even give me a look. When I asked my women friends, they tell me that any woman would be lucky to have me…but no one is interested. Any idea of what I may be missing to make my generation swoon?” He then signed off as – Lovesick Legal Eagle. The answers given to this “LLE” were even more interesting.

The answer to the young man – Mr. “LLE” was : ” Different women look for different things, my friend, among them kindness, humor, looks, money, smarts, status, cars, big sex drive, no sex drive, large family, no family, lovely friends, good taste, a yacht, ability to listen, the gift of gab, multiple degrees, ambition… I will spare you the laundry list. What women find appealing is determined by needs, neurosis and background….”

It’s therefore safe to conclude that people now use logic – not their hearts in choosing a partner. Despite this, the alarming divorce rate all over the world is causing lots of social upheavals. The ever-increasing divorce rate world-wide translates to the fact that lovers have now become incapable of spicing up their love lives, and therefore, has given divorce a free rein. If, in the first place, your relationships was built on a sand dune of true love – then no any amount of rain water can inundate it. It will soak any volume of water that comes its way! Now ask your self: Is your current relationship built upon a sand dune of true love?

Question:

Marriage Is Hard Work, But When Does It Become Too Much Work That It’s No Longer Worth It?

Answer:

Marriage has become work (and even so much work) and no longer worth it because – in this Age, young men often hanker after beautiful women – forgetting that beauty is only skin deep. Young women also hanker after wealth. The type of true love that is supposed to lead lovers toward matrimony has fallen in standard It has indeed reached its lowest level whereby a lover is only interested in hankering after materialism and carnal desires. In this Age, some fake lovers are now putting on a veneer of piety and respectability in order to hypnotize others in search of true love. Their masquerading as true lovers is soon exposed once they achieve their goals – leaving the other partner in limbo.

They then go around claiming that marriage isn’t even worth it anymore. With true love the stress of marriage life will be overcome. And true love is like a flower that needs to be watered (and nurtured) every morning for it to flourish. But if we all take true love for a ride – hoping that it does the magic by itself, then our marriages will be moving in the wrong direction.

Growing old together in love and marriage

Even if marriages are arranged in Heaven as some people believe, I can confidently tell you that the maintenance work must be done right down here on earth!

 

 

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